by dailykongfidence

As a mom of three children I feel like I am always going somewhere. Whether it is to drop off the kids, pick them up, run errands, or take them to all of their activities, I am always in action heading somewhere. Yet sometimes, that somewhere feels like nowhere.

Don’t get me wrong, I love what I do and I wouldn’t trade being a stay at home mom for anything. Especially since being at home also allows me the freedom to blog. But at the end of the day, I may have accomplished twenty things off my to do list, but accomplished nothing for myself.

In the midst of all the chaos of daily life and the things we need to get done (i.e., packing lunches, checking homework, folding laundry, making meals), I’ve realized that it’s important to take time for yourself too.

Having just a moment of peace is an opportunity to stop doing things for others and do something for yourself. And yes, this IS okay – you can be selfish and take time for yourself! And I’m not talking about if you have a free thirty minutes that you use that time to do chores. What I am suggesting is that you take those thirty minutes (or more) and do something that makes you feel alive and what brings YOU joy.

/ Go Somewhere /

  • Take a walk outdoors and get some fresh air
  • Head to a coffee shop and take a journal to reflect
  • Leave 10 minutes early for an appointment so you can read a book or magazine while you wait
  • Take a yoga/ pilates/ barre/ bootcamp class
  • Go to Target (all by yourself – can you imagine?)
  • Work on your succulent or vegetable garden
  • Swim long laps in a pool
  • Take a bubble bath and lock the door
  • Go to dream land and take a power nap

These are just some suggestions to get you started. The point is not to get something checked off your to do list or even learn anything in particular, the point is simply to go somewhere alone…whether that is physically going somewhere or just mentally letting your mind drift to another place. Go somewhere, and let it bring you happiness.

I would love to hear some of your ideas for taking time for yourself.

Most of my outfit are items shopped from my own closet (meaning I’ve had them for a while) and is sold out, but I’ve linked some amazing items that are similar that are in stock right now.

Top | Wylder (sold out) but other star print tops here, here, and here
Jacket | Blessed are the Meek (old) similar styles here, here, and here
Jeans | STS Blue (on sale!) similar styles here
Boots | EGO (sold out) similar styles here and here
Choker | BeXo similar styles here and here
Earrings | House of Harlow 1960 (on sale!) similar styles here and here
Bag | X Nihilo (use DAILYKONGFIDENCE10 to get 10% off till 2/28)
Sunglasses | Celine similar styles here and here

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Carolyn February 16, 2017 - 8:38 pm

you are a superwoman! I love the idea of self-care also — it’s so necessary to recharge energy, take time to process through thoughts, and enjoy our own company!


Jessi Malay February 17, 2017 - 12:31 pm

Looking super chic as always babe! Love how you kept the color palette of this look strictly black.. so chic! <3 Hope you have an amazing weekend girl!

XO Jessi,

Amy February 17, 2017 - 12:50 pm

Christine!!! You look stunning in this outfit. If only I looked so good in my day to day! I am always so impressed at how you manage to do it all, and still cannot believe you have THREE adorable kiddos!! You are truly inspiring!! With that said, I couldn’t agree more on the importance of taking time for yourself!! At the end of a long week, there is nothing that sounds better than a night in, alone, to read and eat a nice meal. I’m a total introvert though, so I can always use all the me time I can get. Do you feel like you are able to get pockets of alone time as a mom?

xx, Amy

diana February 17, 2017 - 2:24 pm

You are a super Mom! 3 kids and you find time to exercise and look fabulous, and find time on commenting on social media, and even to write a blog! WOW, i’m amazed and probably find a time to spend with your husband. I must be wasting my day, cuz If I do all this, I barely had energy to talk anyone else after a long day haha

Lauren Nakagawa February 17, 2017 - 4:00 pm

I had no idea you were a Mama! Way to juggle everything, you’re doing it fabulously 🙂


Kate Tik February 17, 2017 - 8:00 pm

You are such a supermom!! You look so incredible and I love this outfit.


Aldora February 18, 2017 - 9:46 am

I’m still amazed like how you managed to juggle everything between doing housework, caring for kids to blogging and taking OOTDs. It’s insane and I’m sure you must’ve worked damn hard to keep this going! For me, I would love to watch great beauty YT tutorials when I’m free to relax and I find it kind of therapeutic somehow *hehe. Have a great weekend Christine <3

Jenelle February 18, 2017 - 5:42 pm

Taking time out for yourself is so important. Burning out means you are not great to give your time to anyone! I agree. I love to paint my nails and put on a face mask or read to take time out for myself. It takes me back to being a girl and how much I loved to read. Putting the phone down is the most vital, too much Instagram!!
xx Jenelle

Atsuna Matsui February 18, 2017 - 11:03 pm

I’m in love with the your super chic boots here babe! The gold heel detail on them look super luxe and I love this entire look paired with your shaggy coat.


Camille February 19, 2017 - 8:54 am

This look is so beautiful and stylish and I love the post, you are right it is so important to make time for the things which make you happy 🙂

Camille xo


Jennifer Lee Quattrucci February 19, 2017 - 9:25 am

Wow !!!! This outfit is truly extraordinary!! I love that it is made of things you’ve had for a while and you ended up looking so sensational!!! I can totally relate to the whole “just go somewhere ” thing. I teach full time, have a husband and 2 kids so it’s hard for me to actually get everything done, let alone something just for me , but those little things – Target alone !!! make all the difference in the world . You are amazing, Christine! A true inspiration!

Jasmine K February 19, 2017 - 11:44 am

I love these ideas. My favorite is getting early to an appointment and using the 10 minutes to read something. I always try to do that and it puts me ease since I’m not late either!

– Jasmine K

Vukosavljevic Ana February 19, 2017 - 3:20 pm

I think we are always running somewhere no matter what we are doing, being mom or student. It has something to do with the digital era we live in and I think its very important to take break for ourselves and be more present! Loved your suggestions and this look ofcourse <3

Sharon Wu February 19, 2017 - 3:51 pm

I can totally understand where you’re coming from now since my best friend and her 17 month old daughter stayed with me for two weeks. I saw first-hand what it’s like to be a mother. And it’s a loooot more than just being a mommy to two lizards and a pug! lol! Kids are a handful and as a single mom I really don’t know how she manages to find time for herself (well, she rarely did). She would always tell me at the end of the day that it felt like she got so much done throughout the day, and yet at the same time, it feels like she got nothing done. LOL! I guess it must be a mom thing. I think I’ll be sticking to my lizards and pug but I am sure that motherhood is a really rewarding experience. You are an inspiration to me and I couldn’t agree more with the importance of taking some “me” time amidst the everyday busy schedule. I’m glad that you can find that balance for yourself! xo, sharon


dora February 19, 2017 - 3:56 pm

I completely agree with you. Personal time is so important. you just need some space to reflect and recharge your batteries. I love this outfit on you. Super chic

Mercy February 19, 2017 - 5:02 pm

Oh wow, I adore SAHM, I know it’s the hardest thing to do as I have 3 kids too. You always look great in anything you wear and this one is not an exception. Nice to know more about you.


Sydney Style Blogger February 19, 2017 - 7:56 pm

Girl I love your tips on self care. It’s so important for SAHMs and for those that work too. My me time is getting a mani or going to the beach or mountains to just take in nature.


Aurela Fashionista February 19, 2017 - 8:33 pm

I am amazed that you are a mother of three. You look so good 🙂 I remember doing all this when my son was so young. Now that my son is in University I only see him for xmas and summer and I miss doing all activities with him. Being a mother is full time job and I can’t believe you blog regularly, take care of your children and shoot all this beautiful OOTD. Working full time and blogging is a struggle for me but I always go to gym after work everyday. One hour doing yoga, Barr or running in treadmill is my time where I disconnect from everything.
I love your outfit by the way 🙂

Maggie February 19, 2017 - 11:53 pm

Wow! You’re a mom of 3?! That’s crazy! You look so young and fit! Being a mommy definitely scares me because of the lack of time, but I will definitely revisit your post later on. Currently, I have too much me time. Haha.

Maggie S.

sophie February 20, 2017 - 4:07 am

Goodness!!For a mum of three, you look too amazing.You are slaying in this.I love your style.You just never go wrong.Great fur coat there and everything looks so well put together.

Lady Goldapple February 20, 2017 - 7:27 am

I’ve just seen the movie “Bad Moms” that was so hilarious. It’s about a mother who is always so busy with the kids and work and everything. She decides to no longer do all the things everybody expects from her At first people are surprised, but in the end more and more moms began to see her point of view. And everyone began to see how much she was doing for everyone. I loved this movie. It is so good for you if you sometimes take some time to relax and pamper yourself. Thanks for the tips, X Charissa

wanderlustts February 20, 2017 - 9:45 am

This is such an important idea! Sometimes we get so caught up in doing our routine and caring for our loved ones, we forget to take the time to care for ourselves! It’s so important that we also spend some time doing the things we love because self love is so important!
I always take half hour of my day playing silly video games to wind down but it’s a part of my day I look forward to because I use to play so many video games as a kid and it’s just nice to not worry about social media/other people and be in my own zone


Samantha Mariko February 20, 2017 - 9:48 am

I’ve also made it a point to give myself some “me” time despite all the chaos that comes with living in the city. and I am SO in love with this outfit, brava!

Dana February 20, 2017 - 10:02 am

this top is gorgeous!


Eliza February 20, 2017 - 10:59 am

You look so gorgeous, so it’s quite hard to imagine that you’re actually a mommy of three. Thanks for sharing all these great tips! This look is absolutely stunning and very classy, loving the fur coat!
Cheers, Eliza | http://www.fashion-confession.com

Candace February 20, 2017 - 11:55 am

I don’t know about going to Target by myself; I would spend way too much money on food! Haha me time is the best though, so I am in full agreement with your list. As always, you look amazing. Each aspect of this look is on point!


Open Kloset By Karina February 20, 2017 - 2:37 pm

Hey Darling,
You Have 3 Kids? Woow so Nice:)
Well I understand you, I dont have any Kids but At the End of the day I feel the Same…
So I try To start earlier my Day, do Meditation, Go To Run or just for a Walk:)
It was not easy to Manage but I am happy that I did:) We need for our self Time!!!
Very Important:)
Kisses Karina

Gina Diaz February 20, 2017 - 3:13 pm

I love this post and that you remind us of the importance of taking care of “myself”. Lately, I have been thinking about it, and I already plan for this week to do yoga and rollerblade. BTW I love your outfit, you look so stunning!! Xx, Gina

Happy Monday, Christine!

Miki February 20, 2017 - 3:30 pm

You are seriously one chic and hot mama! You can really do it all, and that’s true inspiration! I love your list and when you mentioned going to Target alone, I kind of giggled. I love your faux fur coat and your pretty boots. That blouse just gives it that extra something special. It’s always a good reminder to step away from the crazy aspects of life and give something back to yourself. 🙂 Awesome post Christine!


Yasmin February 20, 2017 - 7:27 pm

Thank you for this heartwarming post, totally agree to find time for yourself regardless of the many tasks you need to achieve everyday! I especially love talking walks alone to reflect or listen to a mediation soundtrack!


Tina February 20, 2017 - 7:31 pm

Your style is always so inspiring! I love how you create such chic and edgy outfits! And omgosh going to Target alone would be so fun hehehe I could literally spend hours there!


Eva February 21, 2017 - 12:48 am

Hello Sweetie!
I have to congratulate to you.
I never imagined you have three kids lol, I have 2 girls but for me too is not easy to make it all.
At the morning like now after carry them to school I can make something for me.
Blogging and swimming .
Sometimes at Sundays, when I have a race day I go out with the car and just listen the music , I’m felling like in the vacation 😉 haha
Sending love from Italy

JN February 21, 2017 - 1:11 am

Great post and site too

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Jessie February 21, 2017 - 6:54 am

hmmm…My definition of Me Time depends on my mood. I love traveling myself sometimes, so I get a chance to clear out my head and plan for the next stage of my life. I also love exercise or shop alone.. or sometimes just simply sit in a cafe and read a book myself…

Love this handbag of yours btw! so chic!

xx, Jessie

Thomas Falkenstedt February 21, 2017 - 7:39 am

I also stress the importance of taking time for ourselves in the midst of the sometimes chaotic lives we live. I love your ways of “tuning out” for a bit. I love going to places by myself and it can be anything from coffee shops to museums or even the movies. There’s something soothing with me-time and I think all people need some of it. As for me, I need lots of it, haha. 🙂


Izzy February 21, 2017 - 10:08 am

Such a gorgeous look!


Jen February 21, 2017 - 12:56 pm

Wow how do you juggle everything? I feel like I can barely juggle all the demands of my own life and I don’t have any children yet, lol. You’re such a supermom. I just like to take naps to relax. It’s always cleared my mind since I was young.

Jo February 21, 2017 - 1:02 pm

You’re so right – taking a moment just for yourself is so important no matter how short. One of my favorite times of the day is in the morning when I’m putting on my makeup. I feel like that time is just my time. I put on some music and mindlessly put on my makeup without thinking about deadlines, or all the things I still have to do, etc. It’s become something really peaceful and relaxing for me, like the quiet before the storm! Love your suggestions too! You look so gorgeous in this look by the way 🙂

xo, Jo

Deddeh Howard February 21, 2017 - 3:22 pm

I don’t have kids but I do have a young brother and lots of cousins and that is a crazy amount of work. So I respect you for that. You look amazing mama!!

Melis February 21, 2017 - 4:22 pm

loving all these ideas babe, it’s so important to take some time off for yourself for you sanity! and i’m sure this will allow you to be a better mom to the kiddos as well, tho i have no doubt you’re an amazing mom. also how cool is this look, killing it every time!!

xx Melis

Rachel February 21, 2017 - 5:28 pm

YOu’re so amazing for looking so amazing and doing so well for being a mom of 3 kids. Thanks for the tips.
xoxo, Rachel

Josie February 21, 2017 - 8:01 pm

Being a stay at home mom is the hardest thing ever! you are doing amazing. I have a son and feel like I don’t make enough time for myself especially with the time I spend on my blog as well. You are so right, it’s important to be selfish from time to time. I’m currently trying to book a spa day for my hubby and I. Also, daily I practice Yoga at home even if it’s only 15 min! It helps me re-center and be alone for a few minutes hehe!

Bisous, Josie

Margaret February 21, 2017 - 9:09 pm

I enjoy the alone time cus i find it the most free time in the busy week. And yes I can imagine you really need some unwinding time on your own as a busy mom and blogger!

xx Margaret

Susanne - Bag at you February 21, 2017 - 9:17 pm

You look fabulous and you are so true!! It is so important to take a little time for yourself and do exactly what you want to do! Thanks for sharing this beautiful article! Xx Susanne – http://bagatyou.com

Stephanie February 21, 2017 - 10:09 pm

Oh my gosh you’re so right about how important it is to take time for yourself. I have a terrible habit of NOT doing this most of the time. I’m constantly checking things off my list (like you), and then feeling wiped at the end of the day, with nothing accomplished for myself. When I DO take time for me, it’s usually by driving with the windows down and my favorite music playing, Starbucks in hand, OR reading a great book or binging a favorite show 🙂

Stephanie // SheSawStyle.com

maryam February 21, 2017 - 10:20 pm

How fabulous is this look, specially your coat! You are very stylish!

xo, Maryam

Stephanie February 21, 2017 - 11:30 pm

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Maggie Krol February 22, 2017 - 10:31 am

Love how you styled this look from head to toe! I still can not believe you have three kids – you look stunning.

Xoxo, Maggie

Lisa Linh February 22, 2017 - 12:06 pm

In love with this look, so fierce with the fur.

Lisa Linh February 22, 2017 - 12:07 pm

In love with this look babe! So fierce with that fur.

Lisa Linh

Manda February 22, 2017 - 1:19 pm

This so hits home for me! Just last night I was thinking so much of what you expressed. I have two little ones and a lot of time I feel like I’m trying to keep my head above water to get everything accomplished and then end the day exhausted and don’t take the time I need to recharge and refuel myself! Target is definitly my happy place to clear my head, get a coffee, and come back refreshed. I also always feel refreshed when I take the time to paper myself a little each day. Even if that means just throwing on an eye mask before bed! It’s the little things you know! You look so beautiful! This is a perfect outfit! Definitely something I would wear and total #inspo!

Jordan Chapman February 22, 2017 - 4:18 pm

There’s no way you have 3 kids, you’re such a superwoman!!
Jordan xx

Jacqueline February 22, 2017 - 7:08 pm

Girl you look fab for a mom of three always on the go! And yes these are all great suggestions! I bet you’re such a busy gal! Hope you have a wonderful day!

Brown Eyed Toast February 22, 2017 - 7:18 pm

OK first of all, no WAY you have three children! You look so young and absolutely younger than your age (I seriously thought you were in your late 20’s like myself!). But kudos to you momma for doing it al 🙂 And I love the idea of this post! It’s essential to take me-time and love ourselves. Of the options you suggested, I especially love the idea of leaving for appointments 10 min early. It’s a great excuse to factor in some down time during essential pockets of the day. I’ve also loved just putting the phone away and taking 10 minutes to rock and sing to some songs 🙂 Speaking of which, can’t wait to do it tonight! 😉

xo Soo | http://www.BrownEyedToast.com

Katya February 22, 2017 - 8:28 pm

Love the advice you gave about taking time for yourself, especially with how busy life can get! Even with a hectic schedule, you still look amazing, gorgeous star blouse!


Samantha Mariko February 22, 2017 - 10:07 pm

Wow, you must have the busiest schedule, being a mommy of 3! I can barely take care of myself, haha! But I do agree we all need to give ourselves “me” time, even if it’s just for a brief moment. Thanks for the helpful tips!! and good luck with everything 🙂

Bernice February 23, 2017 - 6:27 am

Such a busy person! It’s good that you’ve found ways to relax and do things just for you. I hope you’re happy xx


Kusum February 23, 2017 - 11:44 am

Honestly, if I didn’t know you at all then I would never have guessed you are a mom, forget a mom of 3, cuz you always look that stunning! You are one busy person but you always seem to have everything in control! And completely agree, taking the time to ourselves is so important, to me its just some mindless TV to relax. I will try to implement what you said about leaving early to appointments, I realize I do not spend enough time reading.

xx, Kusum | http://www.sveeteskapes.com

Kay February 23, 2017 - 2:37 pm

Love your outfit and the list of things to do for yourself!! I would add listening to music or watching a cute movie by yourself, or even enjoying a meal or a desert (sorbet, anyone?!) that you wouldn’t normally do – or at least not without having to share… xD

Much love <3

emma February 24, 2017 - 2:51 am

this is such a great blog post 🙂 I love it!!


Danielle @ Follow My Gut February 24, 2017 - 10:43 am

Giiiirl you have three kids and look so fly!!! That’s extremely commendable and the fact that you’re able to blog with three little one’s running around is awesome. I appreciate your commitment to EVERYTHING going on and love that you are so dedicated. I love this post and how you have so many great tips on how to take care of yourself and spend quality time on you. Long laps in a pool sounds so perfect!!

Danielle | FollowMyGut.com <3

Darlene February 24, 2017 - 4:50 pm

I still can’t believe you have 3 kids! you look amazing. I’m also a stay at home entrepreneur. I start my day cleaning my kitchen and then breakfast then go to the gym. I have pilates and barre classes too but I mostly do an hour cardio and weights. Time just pass by so fast everyday! I feel like it’s never enough to do something that’s really a “me” time. It’s always about blogging and how I look or where to hustle next. I can’t wait to relax for a day without doing anything.


Merel February 25, 2017 - 5:18 pm

Love this look on you! It is so pretty <3

X Merel

Gil Zetbase February 26, 2017 - 10:11 am

Gorgeous look!
Have a nice week-end!
Gil Zetbase

Yasmin February 26, 2017 - 10:54 am

First of all I’m such a fan of your style. You always have it going on and look so chic. It’s hard to believe you’ve got three kids, take care of the home, and manage to blog and do these amazing street style photos. I feel like Instagram alone is like taking care of a child with all the attention it requires haha. I don’t have kids, but from seeing friends and family with them I know it can be really hard to put yourself first once in a while. Something always comes up. Blogging can take up a huge amount of time, and I know I feel like I neglect it all the time when other projects come up. I can’t even imagine trying to manage that and kids together. But I know a lot of dynamic men and women do it. Anyways, to wrap this up haha, whenever I feel like I’m failing or falling behind, I will remember you as a reminder that I can do more if I put my mind to it. Thanks for the motivation babe!

xx Yasmin

Linh Dao February 27, 2017 - 12:56 am

I don’t know how you do it babe! You are like super woman! You have kids and yet you still manage to put everything together and look soooo amazing! I hope I am like you when I have a family! Thank you for sharing! You look amazing!


samira February 27, 2017 - 1:23 am

you are such a super mama! love this post, completely agree that having a moment for yourself is so important. sometimes we get too caught up in our day and forget to just breathe! also, love this entire look. those booties are so fierce!

xo, samira


theEditorsNotebook February 27, 2017 - 9:32 am

Just realized you have 3 kids- woah you’re such a stylish chica!
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stylefrontier February 27, 2017 - 9:17 pm

totally love this outfit!
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Atsuna Matsui February 27, 2017 - 9:19 pm

You are such goals dear. I still find it so incredible that you find the time to be a mother of 3 children while juggling your commitment to your blog. Even though you are always on the go, I’m pretty astounded by how chic you always look whatever it is that you’re doing.


Catarine February 28, 2017 - 6:05 pm

I totally agree with you. We live in this non stop rush era, where there’s always something to be done. So, it’s really important to take some time for ouselves in order to get self knowledge and some mind peace. You see, if we’re feeling good with ourselves, and not just feeling a to do machine, we’ll get much more productive. At least, i think so.
Talking about the outfit, i absolutely love it, from head to toe.

Oanna fashionsimbol March 2, 2017 - 3:47 pm

This is such a fabulous look dear , love how u styled this faux fur with the black jeans <3

Cece Lam March 4, 2017 - 2:22 pm

I love this look, you are always so fabulous! Yeah I like going out too. But sometimes I just wish I worked from home! Hehe

Lucy Hernandez March 7, 2017 - 4:13 pm

Oh man, I can totally relate to this. THe list get’s longer and time for myself gets smaller. But like you I wouldn’t trade this precious time wiht my littles for anything. I love the tips and will keep them all in mind. I especially love the tip of arriving early to an appointment with a book, I always just end up on my phone which feels like work!
And can we talk about this look, love those boots! Tried to stalk them from your blog, was so bummed they are sold out!
Love this entire outfit, I’d wear it all!

dailykongfidence March 8, 2017 - 4:17 pm

There is not enough hours in the day are there? But we have to make that time! Especially as moms, we need some downtime to just refocus and get our brain working again. It’s good for us and for the family too!

Margot March 8, 2017 - 3:53 am

I love everything in your look.
The fur coat with your shirt look so good together ! i love the stars print in your top.

marcy March 15, 2017 - 2:23 am

You have 3 children? How do you keep a great shape babe?? This is a great post and really enjoy reading.
Great tips babe and love your look head to toe 🙂



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